OK, so, as I mentioned in my previous post, I thought it might be a good idea to help J start formalizing the punishments, and defining a more concrete list of behaviors and actions that require a no tolerance policy attached. Not only will that list establish what will no longer be tolerated by J, but it will also provide me a way of expressing to J what areas I really need help with in order to become a better person.
We’re still in our first month of DD, and as such things are bound to need tweaking and adjusting, and that will become J’s responsibility once we’ve established a core foundation. If she deems a punishment to be too lenient, then she can increase what’s currently defined on the list; furthermore, if she thinks that the offense is being repeated too often, then again, she can increase the punishment to offer more of a deterrent.
I will also quickly note at this point, that the list deals with actions and behaviors, and not the motivational aspect – such as not completing pre-defined chores. One may wonder when does something become a motivational issue, and when is one a behavioral issue? From my perspective, something that’s attached to a motivational spanking is something that had to be completed by a set deadline – for example, keeping the kitchen clean by the end of each day, or finishing a set chore by the end of the week. A behavioral issue is one that hangs over my head 24/7, and ideally should be taken care of with administered discipline at J’s earliest convenience. As such, motivational spankings are due at the end of each week, we’re currently using Saturday nights, but that might potentially migrate to Monday mornings for more convenience on J’s part. If I complete all of the assigned tasks on my list for that week, then I don’t receive a motivational spanking. Obviously, the more chores that are not completed, the greater the severity of the spanking; furthermore, if the same task is not completed the following week, that too will increase the severity to encourage me to take that task more seriously.
OK, so I can see that this post is starting to get a little long already, so lets cut to the chase. What might be easier is to group the actions and behaviors into groups, such as irritating, annoying, intolerable – or something like that. Then the group can serve as a guide for administering the punishment. Obviously, the final numbers and/or times are down to J to decide, but I would suggest something like:
- Irritating – 10 hard swats with the paddle
- Annoying – 15 swats with the paddle, 5 strokes of the cane.
- Intolerable – 20 swats with the paddle, 10 swats with the hairbrush, and 10 strokes of the cane.
For each offence that is repeated that week five additional swats/strokes will be added onto the punishment. For example, if the same offense was repeated for the third time that week, not only would I be a complete idiot, but I would then get the set amount of strokes/swats listed above, plus an additional fifteen on top for repeating it for the third time. Again, all of this is just a suggestion to get J started, and she may feel that what I have suggested is too lenient or too severe, in which case she will adjust accordingly.
Finally we get to the list, and I’ll only list behaviors and actions that I can think of, and it’s really down to J to determine if she deems each one to be irritating, annoying, or intolerable.
- Lying – includes emotional honesty
- Watching / masturbating to porn
- Making J feel stupid through condescending comments
- Embarrassing J in public
- Being obnoxious and rude
- Being inconsiderate or unreasonable
- Being selfish, and not thinking about others
- Hurting others, either emotionally or physically
- Causing J undue stress, for example, back seat driving
- Not keeping promises
- Setting a bad example when around others
- Doing things that J considers unethical or immoral
Those are the things that are off the top of my head. J might have some more, or more specific variations, and she also will need to determine the severity of each one. Not sure if she will use any of my suggestions in terms of what an applicable spanking would be for each offence, but this should get her started.
Dang that’s a long list of character flaws – I’m starting to realize that I need to do a lot of work on my character, otherwise it won’t be long before I can’t sit down anymore!